Please lah don't be such a jerk!

Setelah membaca suatu komen status fb kat profile kawan aku yg baru melahirkan anak tak sampai pun 2 bulan lepas, aku jadi emosi kejap.

Kalau ikut emo aku, nak aje aku sekolah kan minah tu cukup2. Alahai dia pun baru jadik mak budak tahun ni jugak. Dari fb dia aku tgk, hmm.... xde pun ko slim lepas beranak ni. So hello, please lah please ko cermin diri sendiri dulu baru boleh nak kata apa2 kat orang ok!!

Seriuosly!!! These people just could not care less aren't them?
I've been in the situation myself, itu yang aku hangen satu badan kan.
Apa ko hingat nak turun berat ni macam nak buang angin dari belon ke?
C'mon la, be realistic people!!!

I cant understand these people, setelah 9 bulan mengandungkan zuriat dan telah menambahkan berat badan yang tidak boleh di elakkan, and after the most grueling 9months + 2 months post-partum with all the hormonal changes, the 'friendly' questions that I got is..... " eh, badan x turun ek?"
Like *&%)(##&^% lah kan.

Kalau dari someone yang rapat dengan kita, dgn family members ke, boleh lah diterima masuk akal lagi. But other people yg hanya jumpa 3-4 jam sehari? Hello, that is TOTALLY NOT FRIENDLY ok. Seriously, not a good way to say 'hi' to new mother.


I know that there are lots of women out there who is lucky enough to get in-good weight after berpantang, but hell no...I am NOT one of them. It took me almost 1 year and half to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. And it was not easy I tell ya! All I need was support, NOT the cynical and sarcastic, destructive comments which only worsen the mental!

Aku ingat lagi cemana depressed-nya perasaan aku bila bukak wardrobe nak iron baju untuk kerja esoknya. Then masuk kerja dapat soalan 'peramah' macam tu kan. Depressed!!! Depressed!!!!
A depressed working milking mother is BAD for milk production.

So thats why, I totally understand what my new-mom-friend is facing right now. I understand the frustration, the depress feeling. Everything!! I've been there. So I'll make sure that amongst the sms between us, I will always try to insert supportive comments especially when it comes to weight issue.
Maybe it is easier said than done, but I do hope that somehow, she'll feel better knowing that she's not alone battling with the post partum weight issue.

Peeps,
Please please please do NOT ask that killing question to someone who has just delivered a baby okay.
Even if you really really wanted to ask, DONT!! Refrain your self and THINK for another happy question like, how is your baby? Your baby is cute.. etc etc etc. Ada banyaakk lagi soalan manes manes dalam dunia ni yang boleh di tanya.
Do ourselves a favor will ya!

Okey I'm done emo-ing.
Adios!